Category Archives: Question of the Week

What is your idea of an Extraordinary Life?

I have been soul-searching for some time now and my question is what constitutes an extraordinary life to you? I know there will be so many different answers as we are all so different with a wide variety of needs, emotional, material or otherwise. Some may say that an extraordinary life is an elegant life with the riches that go with it. I used to think that is what I wanted, but as I have gotten older I have come to realize that I don’t need much to make me happy. First of all it is important for me to be surrounded by people I trust! Second is to surround myself with people who genuinely care about my well-being and that I enjoy being with. Watching my daughter come into her own is magic before my eyes! I think the perfect life is where you have a job that is your passion, that affords you enough money to not worry about retirement. To make enough to take a summer vacation and a winter vacation. And once in a while play dress up and go somewhere fancy. That’s it in a nutshell. My most favorite thing in the world is to just hang out in my backyard with the people I love, have a few drinks, play games and LAUGH. Or a romantic dinner and slow dance with my boyfriend in our backyard. It’s a simple life…Its a good life!!

Leave a comment on what your extraordinary life looks like. I look forward to reading your comments! XOXO

Stalkers

Question: Have you ever had a stalker? Someone that searches for every little thing you do or say on Social Media? I’m not talking about a friendly fascination, but a vicious and perverted obsession that is demented and sick. People that wish you ill because their lives are so empty and lifeless that all they can do is try and figure out how to hurt you or to bring you down. Stalkers exhibit familiar patterns of behavior. Stalking often starts as a result of rejection; rejection rage motivates the stalker to seek revenge through a predictable pattern of stalking behavior. The stalker, usually a loner and socially inept, becomes obsessed with their target. The abuse, initially consisting of psychological violence, often escalates and culminates in physical violence. It’s a chilling statistic which reveals that 90% of women who are murdered were stalked by their ex-partner.

If you know of someone like this pray for them, and report it to the proper authorities. Have a computer expert get the IP address. The best thing you can do is ignore and pretend they don’t exist, while you have taken precautions to protect yourself. Have you ever encountered such evil? If so, how did you deal with it? Please share your view on this, I am interested. Others insights on subjects can perhaps help others who are at a loss. Thank you and I wish you a happy and healthy day.

Does true love exist?

I have a question…Does true love really exist? My entire life my favorite thing in the world was love, the thought of it, achieving it, living it and losing it. But, is it true love? Can you spend year after year with someone you married and at the time think you are in love…or are you convincing yourself? Does love talk down to you, trick you, take advantage of you, mock you, tear you down and then bring you back up out of guilt? Isn’t love supposed to be kind, loving, considerate, comforting, generous, and proud? I know from personal experience about love gone wrong, but I am still a believer, perhaps a little cynical but nevertheless a believer. I have been observing couples for a long time, paying attention to how they tick, how they behave in mixed company. I see the buddy-buddy couples, the can’t keep their hands off each other couples, the cuss each other out fighting couples and the husband who will hold his wife’s hair after too much wine couple or on the rare occasion the perfect for each other couple. Do I think love is disposable? No, but there comes a time when you realize too many years have gone by and happiness is a distant memory. Change needs to happen for both people, its only fair. I think that it is so easy nowadays for the disposable relationship and it seems the hearts of many have hardened. It is a scary thing to open your heart to someone new, taking a chance on potentially losing more time. I know some lovely couples, of course I am not there in the trenches at home with them and I know that no relationship is perfect, but for the most part in my eyes they are. I have several divorced friends and some of them have found new, unconditional wonderful love, while others are dealing with the disposable relationship thing that has taken over the singles world. Very frustrating for many, and trust is a huge thing. People need to be themselves and be honest and not dangle people along or treat them shabbily. I don’t know, it was just a thought that came to my head, and I thought I would briefly write about it. What is your opinion about love and relationships.

Lost Arts…

Sometimes when I am alone nostalgic thoughts go through my mind.  Lots of questions of why certain things from our past have faded away into the sunset. I know things change and technology has taken us as hostages, but do we really need to let certain things go?

1.  The lost art of the written letter to your love, or a simple thank you, or just thinking about you note.  I miss this form of expression and I am making myself a promise to make efforts to stick a stamp on an envelope and let people know I am thinking about them.  Don’t you get that excited feeling when you receive a colored envelope and you wonder what is inside?  I do!

2.  I don’t notice men opening doors for women anymore.  On occasion I do, but not nearly as much as I would like.  Its a certain old fashioned, I respect you thing that makes my heart smile.  Guys, this little gesture goes a long way!

These are just a couple examples that came to mind.   What things do you miss most from days gone by, and this question probably only pertains to those of us over 40?

Please share, I would love to hear your thoughts!